What Are the Best Anal Toys for Beginners?
A complete beginner's guide to anal toys: the three golden rules, which toy to start with, what size is appropriate and why lube is non-negotiable every single time.
Anal toys can be enjoyed by people of any gender or anatomy. The anal region contains a high density of sensitive nerve endings and for people with a prostate, targeted internal stimulation produces distinctly intense pleasure. Starting with the right toy — the right size, the right material, the right design — is the difference between a comfortable first experience and an unpleasant one that puts you off before you have properly explored.
The Three Non-Negotiable Rules for Anal Toy Use
1. Every anal toy must have a flared base. The anal canal has no natural stopping point — unlike the vagina, it does not end. A toy without a flared base can be pulled entirely inside the rectum, from which it cannot be removed without medical assistance. A flared base — a wide base, handle or loop that is significantly wider than the insertable shaft — prevents the toy from travelling past the anal sphincter. This is a safety rule without exception: no anal toy should be used that does not have a reliably flared base.
2. Always use generous lubricant. The anal canal does not produce natural lubrication at any time. Without applied lubricant, insertion causes friction on the delicate anal lining, causing pain, irritation and potentially tissue damage. Apply lube generously before insertion, during use and as needed throughout the session. The amount that feels like too much is closer to the right amount than what feels sufficient.
3. Never push through pain. Discomfort that progresses to pain during anal play is a stop signal. Stopping, removing the toy, adding more lube and relaxing is always the correct response. Sharp or burning pain indicates tissue friction or strain. Pushing through this signal is how anal fissures and tissue damage occur. Comfort at every step is achievable with the right size, sufficient lube and a relaxed approach.
The Best First Anal Toy: A Small Butt Plug
A small tapered butt plug is the appropriate first anal toy for almost all beginners. It is designed specifically for anal use: tapered at the tip for easy entry, widening to a comfortable bulbous section, narrowing to a neck that sits at the anal sphincter, and ending in a wide flared base that keeps the toy safely in place. Once inserted, it can be worn while doing other things — during masturbation, during partnered sex or simply while relaxing — allowing the body to become accustomed to the sensation of anal fullness without active thrusting movement.
Appropriate beginner size: tip diameter 1.5 to 2cm, maximum width 2.5 to 3cm, insertable length 7 to 9cm. This size provides the sensation of anal stimulation without overcrowding the anal canal for a first-time user. Designs that look impressive rather than appropriate for a beginner are a common mistake — start small and progress when comfortable.
Types of Anal Toy for Beginners
| Type | What It Does | Best For Beginners? |
|---|---|---|
| Small butt plug | Tapered, worn statically in the anus. Provides the sensation of anal fullness. Available in silicone, steel and glass | Yes — the ideal first toy. Static wear allows the body to relax and adjust. Start here before any other type |
| Anal training kit (3 sizes) | Three plugs of progressively increasing size. Used to gradually increase comfort with anal stimulation over multiple sessions | Yes — excellent investment if you want to progress from small to larger sizes methodically and safely |
| Vibrating butt plug | Butt plug with a motor that vibrates, adding stimulation to the sensation of fullness. Many are remote or app-controlled | Suitable after a few sessions with a standard plug. The vibration can be intense initially. Not ideal as the very first toy but a good second purchase |
| Anal beads | A string of progressively larger beads inserted gradually and removed at climax for a distinctive sphincter sensation | Suitable for beginners if the beads are small enough and made of a flexible, body-safe material. A different sensation to a plug — some beginners prefer this, others find a plug more straightforward |
| Prostate massager | Curved toy specifically designed to reach and stimulate the prostate gland through the rectal wall in people with prostates | Yes, if prostate stimulation is the goal. Choose a smaller entry-level prostate massager with a gentle curve rather than a large or aggressive design |
| Anal dildo | Longer dildo for anal penetration with thrusting or sliding movement. Different sensation from a plug | Not the best starting point. Start with a plug to establish comfort before progressing to active thrusting with a dildo |
Materials for Beginners
Body-grade silicone is the best starting material for most beginners: soft but firm, non-porous, easy to clean, comfortable during insertion and warm to the touch. A quality silicone beginner plug from a reputable UK retailer is the most forgiving and comfortable material for initial anal use. Use water-based lube only with silicone toys.
Stainless steel is non-porous, fully cleanable and compatible with all lube types. Steel plugs have satisfying weight and provide a firmer, more intense fullness sensation than silicone. Many experienced anal toy users prefer steel. For beginners, the weight can feel intense initially — it is a good option for those who want a firm, weighty sensation, but silicone is more forgiving for a first attempt.
Borosilicate glass is non-porous, smooth and compatible with all lube types including silicone-based. Similar in firmness to steel. The visual appeal of glass toys is notable and they are easy to clean. A good choice once the beginner stage is complete.
Preparation and Technique
Spend time on arousal before attempting anal insertion. Being fully aroused relaxes the pelvic floor muscles, which directly affects how easily the anal sphincter relaxes for insertion. The difference between attempting anal play immediately and attempting it after significant arousal is substantial in terms of ease and comfort.
Apply generous lube to both the toy and the anal entrance. Position yourself comfortably — lying on one side with knees drawn up, or on all fours — and begin with gentle external pressure against the anal opening, allowing the sphincter to relax before attempting to insert. Breathe slowly and deeply. Insert the tip only, pause, allow relaxation, then continue. Stop at any resistance and allow more relaxation rather than pushing through.
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Anal Play for People With Prostates
The prostate gland in people with penises sits approximately 5 to 7cm inside the rectum, against the anterior (front) rectal wall toward the navel. It contains a high density of sensitive nerve endings and can be directly stimulated through the rectal wall with a curved toy designed for this purpose. Many people with prostates describe prostate orgasms as distinctly more intense than penile orgasms. A curved prostate massager (small to medium size for beginners) is the appropriate toy for targeted prostate stimulation. A standard butt plug can be used to experience anal fullness sensation during masturbation or partnered sex, which also indirectly stimulates the prostate through pressure.
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