How Do You Use a Double Ended Dildo?
A complete guide to double ended dildo use — solo and partnered, best positions, communication tips and safety for a pleasurable shared experience.
Shop DildosThe defining feature is a penetrative shaft at both ends. This allows two partners to share the toy simultaneously, or one person to experience simultaneous vaginal and anal stimulation. Most are made from flexible silicone that bends to accommodate the bodies of both users comfortably.
Types of Double Ended Dildo
| Type | Best For | Notes |
|---|---|---|
| Standard double ended | Two partners sharing simultaneously | Long, flexible shaft. Both ends designed for penetration. |
| Strapless strap-on | One partner penetrating the other | One end held internally by the wearer. Requires strong pelvic floor muscles. |
| Vibrating double ended | Couples wanting added sensation | Motor benefits both users simultaneously. |
| Dual penetration (shorter) | Solo vaginal and anal stimulation | Shorter, curved design for simultaneous one-person use. |
Solo Use
For solo use, a double ended dildo is typically used for simultaneous vaginal and anal stimulation. The toy flexes to curve between the two openings. Apply generous lubrication to both ends and both entry points. Begin by inserting the vaginal end first, then guide the other end toward the anal opening slowly and with plenty of lube. A curved or angled design makes this easier to manage alone.
Solo use can also simply mean using one end at a time, treating the toy as a standard dildo with a long handle. The length gives extra leverage during thrusting and many people find this preferable.
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Face to face with legs interlocked is the classic position. Both partners sit or lie facing each other with legs scissored and open. Each inserts their end and works toward the other gradually. This position makes communication easy and gives both partners equal control.
Back to back is a less common alternative, particularly where the toy design does not flex comfortably in a face-to-face position. Each partner inserts their end and leans gently away from the other.
One partner on top gives one person more control over depth and pace. The receiving partner lies down while the other straddles above, using the toy as a shared bridge. This position works well once both partners are comfortable with the toy.
For all positions, leave a meaningful length of toy between both bodies. Attempting to close the gap completely puts strain on the toy and can cause discomfort for both users.
Cleaning
Clean thoroughly after every use. Wash with warm water and unscented soap, paying attention to both ends. If one end has been used anally and the other vaginally, boil or sterilise the toy before switching uses. For full guidance see our guide to how to clean a dildo.